Thursday, March 3, 2011

Definition: Husband, Part Five

The Definition of a Stand Out Husband has many pieces, all of significant importance.  But as I've grown in my relationship, I have found that Forgiveness is a crucial quality in a husband.

Over time, everything changes.  What we used to do, or who we used to be, tends to bend and change into who we are and what we do.  Our responsibilities, our family dynamic, and our culture all change.  What could be done in a week, can now be done in an instant.  Our relationship as a husband is no different.

Maybe I come from too much experience not to share what I have learned.

Not that I have forgave, but have consistently been forgiven.  Most of the early portion of my marriage was continuously filled with chaos.  Many of the people my wife and I knew had to throw out 2 or 3 different address books, because our chaotic life took us to so many places.  Job changes, location changes, "starting over" changes, and the addition of children (and pets) required us to move into larger places, seemingly every year.

(Ok, every year.  Maybe twice a year.)

Forgiveness comes in many forms, and when living in a state of chaos, forgiveness comes in acceptance.  When stress takes over your life, forgiveness comes in the form of reassurance.  When anger bubbles in a relationship, forgiveness comes in the form of communication.

A stand out husband has to believe in forgiveness.  

In today's world, we are taught that holding all the cards controls our happiness.  That selfish ways are the only way to ensure we get what we deserve.  In a marriage, as in every relationship, this sentiment could not be further from the truth.  We have to lay the cards down, we have to believe in others.  

And as others have forgiven me, I have learned that through forgiveness comes a stand out husband.  I strive to show my forgiveness through compassion, trust and honesty.

I have just one more addition to my Definition of a Stand Out Husband series.  I hope a complete definition can help husbands ensure a completely fulfilling marriage!


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